Tag: conditional love

Obsessive~Compulsive~Abusive~Reclusive

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TODAY’S LIFE LESSON: Reveals the process we all go through as we search for our inner truth and divine plan. Our soul is on a quest for the return to our former power and glory as a divine being. Each of us have created many experiences that add to our personal story and move us ever forward into our higher awareness with a deeper connection than ever before. The quest for unconditional love takes many forms in many lifetimes as we evolve and learn life lessons.

The steps we go through can take lifetimes to complete. Each part of our research and experimenting requires the commitment of self along with the commitment of others to make it happen. It is a team effort for sure . . . and the team must all agree to evolve through these experiences in order to discover the myriad of facets that love can reveal through the process. These facets are all a part of what is known as conditional love.

In these times we are living in, humanity is experiencing the epitome of the absence of love. It is as far away as we can get and still be connected to the source of our creation. We are collectively manifesting every possible contradiction and contrast to what love is. The virtual reality of CONDITIONAL LOVE and what it feels like to be so disconnected that we forget who we are and why we are.

OBSESSIVE LOVE= the idea that we need something or someone in order to be loved. The focus remains on obtaining things and people in our lives to feel connected or complete – this leads to rejection and feeling unloved. Many who have acquired wealth, things, and status are incredibly unhappy people.

COMPULSIVE LOVE= the repeated patterns of choosing the same type of relationship that we have been living in and hoping we can actually get it to work if we try hard enough or repeat it often enough. Some would call this the definition of insanity . . . and perhaps they are right. No amount of disrespectful or dysfunctional behaviour will ever bring a happy ending.

ABUSIVE LOVE= the desire to enter into a relationship that will validate all of the reasons we don’t love ourselves. These relationships are designed to give us the broken hearted experience where we feel responsible for the other persons happiness at the expensive of our own. This is the most painful of relationships on all levels – physically, mentally and emotionally.

RECLUSIVE LOVE= is designed to help us experience the feeling of separation to the furthest degree. We isolate ourselves further and further until the presence of love is in total absence from our experience. The idea that no love is better than hurtful love inspires us to live far away from friends and loved ones who were the source of great hurt or betrayal. The idea is that we are better off this way . . . but time alone will teach us otherwise and only the discovery of self love will end the cycle.



CONDITIONAL~UNCONDITIONAL

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TODAY’S LIFE LESSON: shares the intention that we are here to learn so many life lessons through trial and error, falling down and getting up, the pendulum of moving forward and then seemingly being knocked backwards . . . it is all an ingenious process for us to learn about the various and sometimes endless conditions that a human soul can experience in their lifetime.

Each life lesson is recorded within our soul system to remind us of where we have been, what we have learned and where we need to move forward to from there.  No life lesson is an absolute.  The only thing we know for sure, is that once we have been there and done that, the next logical step should be to move in a different direction which should improve the outcome in some beneficial way.

Well logic is very different than emotion.  Logic is very linear and black and white . . . the full spectrum of emotions tend to anchor themselves to an experience and then replay it over and over again until we are very clear that is not where we want to be, or who we want to be if we are going to grow or change.  Emotions can be distractions that keep us from being clear or certain about what we are really trying to accomplish.  Feelings – well they are basic and simple:  MAD, SAD, BAD, GLAD no confusion there, only anger, hurt, guilt or happiness to choose from.

Once we have researched all the ‘conditions’ that life can throw our way, then we have all of the understanding, compassion and empathy that we need to have patience, tolerance and acceptance for others who are still going through the process.  This is how we achieve the state of unconditional love called grace.

CONDITIONAL LOVE= the use of judgment and fear to express ourselves and explore the world as a unique soul seeking perfection.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE= the state of grace where you are perfectly at peace with being an imperfect human, but loving yourself and others anyway.

FAMILY~FRIENDS~FOES – who needs your love?

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Return To Avalon

TODAY’S LIFE LESSON: inspires us to consider all of the people we have made our life journey with, and how they have played significant roles in our personal development.  Some will have been an encouragement, some would be a discouragement, but each and every one did it from a place of love and support.

We tend to think that we must keep everyone in our circle of experience happy with us in order to appreciate them being family or friends.  We learn just as much from the ones that are in conflict with us as we do the ones that compliment us.  At this time in our sacred journey, there is a shake up going on that will literally have all of the leaves falling off your family tree, your friends will want to walk away for reasons unknown and complete strangers will have strong opinions about you in moments that are hurtful.

The challenge is – are you willing to allow yourself to accept that you are ok with all of that by remaining calm, compassionate and understanding in the midst of all the chaos?  The only one that you can truly work with is yourself.  Self is the key to finding everlasting peace and self love that eventually will be exchanged with those that have also been through the test and found a new sense of independence born of unconditional love.

FAMILY= the ones you were born to love
FRIENDS= the ones you chose to love
FOES= the ones you need to love – who need your love the most.