TODAY’S LIFE LESSON: exposes our vulnerable side by revealing that when we are in a place of blaming or shaming others, we are playing a game called guilty. The idea is that if we are not able to witness and own our own shadow self, then we start to focus on the shadow in others as a way of learning and observing from a distance. It is easy to point out the faults and flaws in others . . . we are very good at that. We don’t have any investment in the emotional side of how this came to be, why they are in the place they are in, or even what it is that they are so unhappy about that they would spend their precious life force and energy blaming others. We are then actually contributing to the game as a cheer leader . . . especially if we are willing to listen to their stories over and over again without challenging them to wake up and see things differently.
Every time we feel the need to blame someone else, we miss the opportunity to heal that part of us that is the same as they are. Like attracts like. If your friends and family are investing in the need to gossip, complain, blame or shame someone, then you are no different when you take the time to hear them. Learning to take the fruit of the conversation and stand in front of your own soul mirror and ask yourself “How do I do this?”. It may not be the exact same, but there will be a part of you that wants to blame them, or shame them for doing what they are doing. That deep inner hurt and hate that we all have is very willing to participate in that sport.
Usually when you are someone who blames others – it comes from a place of guilt inside of you that feels you are to blame for something you have done . . . or not done and can’t seem to come to a place of peace with it. It is a shadow that follows you everywhere you go . . . in your friendships, your relationships and your acquaintances with others on a less personal level. It all adds up to a feeling of emptiness and loneliness that drains the joy and happiness out of your life. Taking ownership without feeling the need to defend yourself or offend anyone is the key to bringing back the joy in life.
BLAME= the need to make others at fault or wrong because we are feeling inadequate, incomplete and unhappy.
SHAME= the feeling of being wrong or wronged somehow for your choices and decisions that affected yourself and others
GAME= the energy of karma contributing to the same lesson being shared and exchanged over and over again without learning or growing.